Well it's ALMOST Christmas again and normally by this time I would be flipping out because I haven't bought any gifts for anyone else. This year is a different story thouhg. I am forgoing Christmas due to the self-indulgent need for some fun. I am instead spending my money on myself this year and taking a trip to visit friends in the NY and NJ areas, that is of course providing I have saved up enough to afford the trip. Ever since a few of the people I play FFXI with came up to Canada to visit me I have wanted to go visit them in their natural environment. It should be a blast and seeing as it will be the last self-indulgent thing I can do for quite some time (stupid debt repayment) I am doing everything I can to be able to go. Although I am torn between going and spending time with friends and spending time with my Greg. I think though that since Greg understands that I need to go and have some fun I will end up going on my trip. There's one other thing weighing on my mind as I try to plan my holidays. That is spending too much time with someone who takes my friendship the wrong way. He refuses to understand that I am with someone I love and care about very much. I don't want to give this person the wrong idea and cause more problems than I already have. I also don't want to lose this person as a friend but I am at my wits end here. Anyone have any ideas on how to be able to hang out with my friends and not give this person the wrong idea?

this person never took your friendship the wrong way, he only ever cared for you and if this person hadn't been betrayed by everyone he thought to be his friends then you wouldnt be in this emotional bind. If this person is your friend he will want you to have fun with you on the trip and just enjoy spending the time he can with you. Plus, I know for a fact that this person is much better at swinging the emotional sledge-hammer, and wants you to just feel comfortable when you are around him.